Gokul & Padmini

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Our Stories
Padmini

It was my idea that both of us should write approximately 300 words about each other, so please bear with me for the next 261 words :) Gokul comes across as a really serious, nerdy, career focussed, no nonsense kind of guy. The kind of person who made me want to double check my thoughts before speaking. After getting to know him over the last few months, I have realized that most of the initial impressions I had about him were incorrect. His penchant for silly (sometimes corny) word play jokes made it easy to have a good light hearted conversation with him. It was nice to know that he was also able to laugh at himself. On one occasion, I made fun of the way he said “Nag-pore” (for Nagpur, but rhyming with Singapore).

Gokul was always up for a good adventure and was extremely meticulous in planning out our weekend activities together. Right from breakfast bagels to the last coffee of the day, he had it all planned out. He might have over planned these events while we were dating, but I honestly appreciated his attention to detail in planning while being patient to my last minute detours.

A few weekends back, while we were shopping for the upcoming India trip, a woman in the store who was watching us came up to me and remarked - “You have an awesome companion in him, he is actually shopping with you and he seems to enjoy it. Don’t ever let him go :D”

As with any new journey, I’m sure that there are going to be a lot of unknowns in the beginning, but we make good companions and will find ways to make the journey an interesting one.

Gokul

I like to think of "our story" as set of moments, events, and adventures. The story starts, as many do, with a classic moment. We met at a coffee shop for our first date. After the usual chatting, we talked about where we lived; this is where we found that we lived in the same city, we lived near the same street crossing, and in fact, we lived in the same apartment complex. The petrified look on Padmini's face is something I can never forget. It was an incredible coincidence that we had never met despite living in the same place for more than two years!

As we continued our courtship, I found Padmini to have a zest for life and adventure. She has a great love for her family and friends. The big event happened when I proposed to Padmini during a hike at Muir Woods, one of my favorite places. I'm glad she said yes! We continued our adventure by spending the July 4 weekend in the Rocky Mountains. We completed a strenuous 10+ mile hike at high elevation, through the snow, and up the waterfall, to Sky Pond to be greeted with amazing vistas and one hungry marmot who chased us for lunch -- ask me in person. (Many of the photos you see above are from that trip.) To quote an old man who we met at the end of our adventure, "If you finished the Sky Pond hike together and are still talking, you will be fine after the marriage!" With these words of encouragement, I look forward to enjoying many more moments, events, and adventures along the journey we have just started.

Schedule
Day One - August 21, 2014

Engagement 3-4pm

Reception 7-9pm

Day Two - August 22, 2014

Wedding 9:30-10:30am

 
Venue

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Wedding Events

The Iyengar wedding is filled with rituals and mutual respect for the two families coming together.

Day One

Pandakal: Preparation of the wedding venue

Just a day before the scheduled wedding, an auspicious start is performed by putting in place the pillars for constructing the wedding venue. The word pandal kal literally means the leg or pillar (kal) of the canopy (pandal).

Vetrilai Pakku: Engagement ceremony

This is an engagement ceremony where the bride and groom exchange gifts. It confirms that the couple are to be married.Both families exchange their gift platters with betel leaves(aka vetrilai), arecanut (aka paaku), coconut , fruits and flowers as a mark of mutual agreement for the marriage proposal.

Janawaasam: Welcoming the groom

On the evening prior to the wedding, the event begins with the grand welcome to the groom and his family known as Maapillai Azhaippu. A reception generally follows.

Day Two

Vratham: Fast before the wedding ceremonies

The marriage ceremonies begin separately for the bride and the groom. Before taking a bath, both have nalangu (a red paste made of kumkum and turmeric and applied to the hands and feet). While the groom performs Vratham, the bride's father performs Jathakarna & Namakarna to the bride

Kashi Yathra: The last out for the groom

This is an interesting ritual that takes place just before the main wedding ceremony. According to the sastras, the four phases of a man's life are Brahmacharya (Learning), Grihastha (Raising the family), Vanaprastha (Living in the forest as a recluse) and Sanyasa (Renouncing the world and living as hermit), Kasi yathirai is a symbolic indication that the groom should move from the brahmacharya aasramam to grahasthaasramam and not directly to the others. As he gets dressed with footwear, umbrella etc. and is ready to go away, he is persuaded by the bride's father to return.

Malai Maatruthal: Exchange of garlands

In this ceremony, the groom and the bride exchange their garlands three times with their maternal uncles as witnesses.

Oonjal: Swing ceremony

The bride and groom are made to sit on a swing and are treated like Radha and Krishna while the bridesmaids and the female relatives sing beautiful songs around them. While sitting on the oonjal their feet are washed with milk and they are protected from the evil eye, by circling a handful of coloured rice around their head and then throwing them away in all the four directions (the ritual of Pidi Sutral). It is hoped that their life would be as smooth as swinging joyfully in a swing.

Kanyadaan: Giving away the bride

The heart of this ceremony is the giving away of the bride to the groom by the bride’s father. Kanya dhaanam is done by getting the bride seated on the lap of the father who gives away the daughter to the groom. On the bride’s head, a ring made of Darbha of Kusa grass is placed.A yoke is placed over it. The Tirumangalyam or Thali is placed on the aperture of the yoke.The symbolism of the yoke is drawn out of ancient rural life where the tilling of the fields and drawing of the cart were by a pair of bulls connected by the yoke. This ritual means that just as a two bulls have to work in harmony, the success of the marriage needs both the wife and husband.

Mangalyadharanam: Tying the knot

The highlight of the marriage is the Mangalyadharanam where the groom ties the sacred 'taali' on the bride as she is seated on the lap of her father. He makes the first knot and the two others are completed by his sister. The three knots symbolize Brahma, Vishnu and Rudhra. Flowers are showered on the couple as a blessing.

Sapthapadi: Taking the vows

This is the ritual where the couple walk around the sacred fire. The groom walks with the bride to the right side of the sacred fire while holding his wife's right hand. He stops, bends down and holds the right toe of his wife with his right hand and helps her take seven steps around the fire. At the beginning of each step, he recites a Vedic mantra for food, strength, piety, progeny, wealth, comfort and health.

Vilayadal: Games after the wedding

Vilaiyadal (which literally means playing games) is the social and entertaining part of a wedding. The women from the groom's side bring trays in which all the items of daily need for the bride. These items are known as Vilaiyadal seer (gift for playing) .Then the ritual of 'Thengai Urutal' takes place in which coconuts covered with turmeric are rolled at each other by the bride and the groom. This is done just as a joyful intervention and to familarise the families with the strengths and weaknesses of each other.

Grihapravesam

Grihapravesam is the formal entry of the newly-married bride to her in-laws’ place. The newly-wedded wife enters her husband’s ‘house’ escorted by her parents amidst the chanting of mantras.

Nearby Accommodations

If you are planning to stay near the wedding venue, here is a list of nearby hotels.

The Atria Hotel

# 1, Palace Road Bangalore 560 001, India

Phone:+91 80 2220 5205

Web: atriahotel.com

The Chancery Pavilion

135 Residency Road, Bengaluru 560 025, India

Phone:+91 080 4141 4141

Web: chanceryhotels.com

Purple Lotus

#46 6th Cross, Lavelle Road, Bengaluru 560 001, India

Phone:+91 00 4005 6300

Web: purplelotus.in